That was certainly the case for now 31-year-old Ellen Zemlin. It's like, yeah, you're crafting a persona or whatever, but it's not that different from what you do if you meet someone at a bar,” Höglund tells Mic. “The idea that online relationships or online dating is a less organic way of getting to know somebody. But by the end of the season, Goel - who placed second overall - formed an unlikely yet genuine bromance with winner Joey Sasso, a gym rat who would fit in perfectly on Jersey Shore.įor many millennials and Gen-Zers who grew up on social media, online relationships can feel just as real as in-person ones do. He even once ran a small, independent campaign for Governor of California, voicing his belief that social media should be banned for minors in K-12 schools. He approached the game with a heart-warming earnestness, despite being skeptical of the show’s premise. Take Season 1 fan favorite, the dorky yet lovable virtual reality designer, Shubham Goel. But often, their friendships last off-screen. Sometimes, these relationships seem stale - players will have a short, surface-level conversation, then declare themselves perpetual allies in the game.
As a reality competition, The Circle amplifies the best and worst aspects of online friendships. Typically, the two most highly-rated players become “influencers,” and together, they decide who gets eliminated and loses the chance to win $100,000.
Every few episodes, the contestants rank each other. Other times, contestants will enter the Circle as a catfish, adopting another person’s identity and pictures. Sometimes, this means pretending to be single, or using someone else’s photos. So, since in-person contact is out of bounds, players can choose to represent themselves however they wish. They can only interact with fellow players, and that communication can only occur via text. The Circle is essentially a social media popularity contest: Players travel to an apartment building in England, where they are sequestered in chic flats with no in-person contact. At the same time, the nature of the competition incentivizes deception, encouraging the viewers and players alike to keep on their toes when making new friends on the internet. And it resonates with people like BR and Höglund, who have found genuine connections in unlikely digital spaces. It reflects the strange, cyber minutiae of our daily lives, in which we figure out how many emojis and exclamation points are necessary to convey our emotions over text. Now, The Circle encompasses both sides of the coin, by emphasizing the normalcy of socializing online.
THE CIRCLE THE AFTERPARTY TV
But even as online friendships became more commonplace, TV shows like To Catch a Predator and Catfish drilled into our minds the potential dangers of meeting these people in real life. According to the Pew Research Center, 48% of 18-to-29-year-olds have used an online dating app and 57% of American teens have made a friend online. It’s not abnormal to meet close friends or romantic partners on the internet - especially when digital communication has become our primary way to stay in touch in the pandemic. They’ve now been dating long-distance for about two years. Two of the new friends, BR and Owen Höglund, 24, found such great chemistry that BR crossed the U.S.-Canada border to meet him.
The three friends initially met in a Facebook meme group, but they quickly began talking in a group chat on a daily basis. “I just love that it's this fake social media show and we're these real social media friends watching it together,” Zeke BR, 27, tells Mic. Over Discord’s voice chat, they counted down to make sure they all clicked play at the same time, eager to watch how the reality show and social media experiment would conclude. In Toronto, Minnesota, and Massachusetts, three friends logged onto Discord to watch the Season 2 finale of Netflix’s The Circle together.